In most of the born again believers throughout the world; it is believed that our words whatever we speak are not important to God or to the persons around us. But the truth is that when a person accepts God and be committed with Him to walk on His ways entire His life then first of God work upon our words or I should say He works on our tongues because the source of delivering outside our thoughts is our tongue. Bible says, that it needs to be tamed because every kind of animal or creature a man can control but not a tongue.
James 3:1-12 NIV
“Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers; because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2 We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.
3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
7 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
9 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. 11 Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? 12 My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.”
In above given reference it is cleared that a man control the tongue and its very important part our body because with the same part we give praises of our Lord God and we curse others if we don’t know that it is not according to the word of God.
So, first of we all as a born again Christian have to accept that we need to train our tongue because its God’s perfect will to us. Jesus Christ taught us that we are not to deal other persons in the same ways he is dealing with us but we are to be good always; because if somebody is cursing us or is abusing and trying to do bad against us then according the word of God we shall be blessed if we don’t respond them and just depend upon God that He Himself is watching all and has authority to give them rewards according to their deeds. What our duty is; it’s to be in peace and follow the God’s words as He says just to love each others. God doesn’t give us authority to judge others but He has given authority to correct us and then others. When don’t use our tongues negatively against our enemies then we are giving opportunity to God to tame our through following His word of patience. A person who is always speak bad can not be happy in his life but as person who uses his tongue fairly wherever it needs and doesn’t talk badly can be happy in his life. We are to just follow God and we will experience heaven upon this earth.
1 Peter 3:10-12
10 “If you want a happy, good life, keep control of your tongue, and guard your lips from telling lies. 11 Turn away from evil and do good. Try to live in peace even if you must run after it to catch and hold it! 12 For the Lord is watching his children, listening to their prayers; but the Lord’s face is hard against those who do evil.”